Difficulty with social interaction is one of the traits associated with autism. Without an understanding of social skills, it is hard for someone to establish and maintain relationships or to exist as a member of a community, which can, in turn, impact a range of other daily activities. That is why any life skills program for autism must include social skills.
Why are social skills so important?
We live in a world where it is almost impossible to survive without some ability to interact with others. Outside of the family, friends, teachers, employers and coworkers who expect our attention, we might need to make phone calls or visits to banks, utility companies or government agencies. If we are going out, we may need to purchase a ticket from a bus driver or talk to a waiter or shopkeeper. It is partially about practical requirements and partially about connecting with your community.
Without these human connections, it is simply more difficult to carry out the regular activities of daily living. A person can become isolated and lose self-esteem, which in turn can lead to depression, anxiety and other health problems. Adults with autism may have different attitudes to relationships to neurotypical people, but this does not mean it is not important for them to have a supportive social network.
Why do adults with autism sometimes struggle with social skills?
Autism is often described as a different way of communicating. When a person with autism tries to hold a conversation with a neurotypical person, it can be almost as though they are speaking two different languages. Without a translator, this can lead to misunderstandings and frustration.
Many people with autism struggle to understand social cues or read body language. They may not know how to respond appropriately in conversation and struggle to adapt to new or rapidly changing situations. If they have sensory processing issues, this may distract them from being able to focus on the interaction. Problems with self-regulation may also interfere with their ability to follow social norms.
Meanwhile, a lack of understanding from neurotypical people can exacerbate the situation. If they are unfamiliar with autistic traits, they may misinterpret this behavior as rudeness or hostility and will not necessarily be willing or capable of offering any accommodations.
How can social skills be incorporated into life skills training?
The first advantage of programs that teach life skills for adults with disabilities is that they provide a safe, controlled environment in which to learn and practice social skills. Professional teachers and coaches have qualifications and experience in interacting with and supporting adults with autism or similar conditions. Other students have similar disabilities and, therefore, shared life experiences, meaning these programs also serve as social groups for adults with autism.
This ensures that these programs allow students to study the rules and norms of social interaction, to build meaningful relationships, and to rehearse common situations that they might encounter, perhaps through role play. Meanwhile, programs can build connections with local employers and community members to ensure that when students enter the outside world, there are people who can offer appropriate accommodations and support.
Conclusion
Programs that teach life skills for adults with disabilities have to cover a wide range of different topics, but social skills are particularly important if adults with autism are to have meaningful connections with other people. These connections are necessary if someone is to be happy and confident in life and to be able to interact with their community.
